Are you in a sexual relationship and having second thoughts? Tell your partner you want to take a month off the sex. One of three things will happen:

1. Your partner will say "ok, I'll see you in a month" - if that happens, what does that tell you about your relationship (maybe it's based on sex?)

2. Your partner may agree to take a month off and you may find that you really don't have anything in common, but your sexual relationship.

3. You will find you are doing a lot more talking and just having fun. You will learn things about this person you never realized before and the emotional intimacy will grow.

The term "Secondary Virgin" makes a lot of people laugh. However, people who are living this lifestyle take it very seriously. Secondary virginity is an attitude that says "been there, done that, and no more until married". Obviously, you can't get back your physical virginity or erase memories of past sexual relationships, but it's a huge positive step to a healthy lifestyle.